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Bookish Musings & Discussion Time // I … Hate Books?

Hi, guys!! I hope you’re all having a great weekend! 💫

Today, I’m here with an issue that has cost me many sleepless nights in the past, and still does—mostly figuratively speaking, of course (I may have a fondness for hyperboles)—but also literally*.

*Yes, I sometimes spend the time during which I unsuccessfully try to fall asleep thinking about my book ratings, and go on to compare books (which I gave the same ratings) in my mind—a thought process that can sometimes spiral into me finding myself on the path of a slow descent into madness.

Frustrated, Facepalm GIF // Fresh Off the Boat

But I digress.

The issue I want to address are book ratings—more specifically, how mine seem to suggest that I hate books*.

(*Hyperboles, remember.)

I think every one of us has been in a position in which we doubt ourselves as to our judgement, rating, and opinion of a book. At least, I hope that I’m not the only one who has.

Sometimes, because we think we’re being too critical, and sometimes, because we think we’re not being critical enough. Though, granted, the latter scenario is hardly ever a source of affliction for mea fact that will make perfect sense to you, if you know my average rating of books.

Most of the time, because we seem to be in a minority with our opinion, but also, because we love reading other book bloggers’ and reviewers’ posts about books, and they can at times make us re-think our stance on them. (Again, I hope this doesn’t only happen to me.)

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As I’ve established, I mostly find myself in the first situation—the one, in which I ask myself “am I, maybe, … too critical?”—and especially these past few days, I’ve been second-guessing myself more and more, because I’ve been reading a lot of books that pretty much all of my friends, and the majority of readers, have loved, and gushed about.

Let me present to you the latest one; They Both Die at the End, written by Adam Silvera.

They Both Die at the End by Adam Silvera

Even before I started reading this book, I couldn’t help but notice the many four- and five-star ratings, and proclamations such as “this is the best book I’ve ever read”, and “this is a masterpiece” (I’m only slightly paraphrasing here), and an average ratingas of todayof 4.15 on Goodreads, with a total of 25,596 ratings. That’s extremely high, in case I haven’t stressed this point enough.

And, once again, I didn’t love it. Like so many other universally well-loved books before it.

Far from it, actually.

Which can mean only two things:

1. ) I simply hate books, or
2.) I’m a very critical reader.

Personally, I identify much more with the latter assertion, because obviously, I love books. I mean, I created a blog dedicated to books! (And if you still don’t believe me, here are some books that I love with my entire heart and soul:)

 

“Then why do you mostly give out two star ratings, and always seem to find something to criticize about the books you read?” I can hear you collectively scream at me (in the most loving way, of course).

To be honest, I don’t have a satisfying answer to that question. [Cues the soundtrack of me singing “I will never be satisfied” in my most Angelica-like voice. 🎶]

What I do know, however, is that my book ratings don’t have anything to do with whether or not I love books. I may enjoy, or even love, fewer books compared to the average reader, but that doesn’t change the fact that I love reading—and that I most definitely do not hate books.

[Insert GIF of me letting out a sigh of relief.]
(As opposed to one in which I let out a breath I didn’t realize I had been holding … 😉)blue-watercolor-wash-texture-5Let's Discuss! // Discussion Post @ Sprinkles of Dreams

Do you ever doubt your judgement of books?

Are you usually in the minority or the majority, when it comes to bookish opinions?

Do you ever feel like you’re too critical, or not critical enough?

[Please tell me that I’m not alone in my exasperation, when it comes to rating books??]
(Do any of you wish Goodreads would introduce ½ ratings as well?)

xx, Lily

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123 thoughts on “Bookish Musings & Discussion Time // I … Hate Books?

  1. nice discussion I love you and your critical reading self even though it makes me sad that you don’t love my favs

    also big mood in like February and March and April I wasn’t having too many high rated books and then whenever I rate a book highly I’m like ?? is everything all right with me??? I gotta rate some books lower!! which is stupid because I should just let myself enjoy the books I enjoy and hate the books I hate and not have a crisis over whether or not it’s “accurate” or whatever

    (anyways good post you can tell I’ve thought about this kind of thing a lot djskfhdkfjdj)

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    1. Love you too, you little nag. ❤ And I love Six of Crows, so we’re good!!

      I’m looking forward to the day that’ll happen to me … though I 100% agree that we shouldn’t have crises over wondering whether we’re being too critical, or not critical enough. I hope that one day we’ll both be able to read and rate books without feeling the pressure of either.

      (Thank youuu 💖 & I totally can.)

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  2. I’m the opposite of you, haha! I always doubt my judgement of books because I feel like I’m not critical enough; I tend to give out mostly four- and five-star ratings. 😂 I hate giving out low ratings (unless the book is really problematic) so I tend to “round up” instead of down, if that makes sense.

    Seeing other people’s opinions and reviews on a book has definitely changed my rating countless times; I think I’m too easily swayed by other people, tbh. 😂🙈 (Which is probably why I’m usually in the majority when it comes to ratings.) And I definitely wish that Goodreads would introduce half-star ratings; it would help so much during the times I’m stuck between a three- or four-star rating. (Which is often.) 😩

    Ahhh I hope this comment made some sense, haha, sorry that it was all over the place. This was a great and thought-provoking post, as always. And I hope you’re having a wonderful weekend as well, Lily! 💗

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    1. I hate giving out low ratings as well! But my mind tends to always find aspects to criticize, and then I’d feel insincere giving a book a higher rating than I personally feel it “deserves”, judging by my feelings towards it.

      And I’m majorly influenced by other people’s opinions, too! Mostly, when I don’t have strong feelings towards a book. But I think that, in the end, I do stick to my original rating, except if I read really convincing reviews, or if a review points out problematic content I didn’t notice myself.

      Thanks for such a thoughtful comment, it made perfect sense! ☺️

      Happy reading & enjoy the rest of your weekend, Dezzy! 💖🌷

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  3. Really enjoyed this post! I think I’m the opposite, sometimes if a book is super hyped and I find that I’m enjoying it, but not loving it, I’ll give a book a four star rating, rather than probably the three that I should. I’m definitely usually in the majority with my book opinions, and sometimes, I’m probably not as critical as I should be! I feel like this post will make me lose sleep now as its really got me thinking haha

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    1. I’m so glad to hear that!! 🙂

      I definitely get swayed to rate books higher as well, and round up my ratings (sometimes unconsciously) when it comes to really hyped books – except for when I feel really strongly about my rating.

      Oh no, I hope you don’t!! I’m so happy that this post managed to be thought-provoking, but please don’t lose sleep over it (like I do). 🙈

      Thanks for your comment, I loved hearing your point of view on this topic! 💗

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  4. I like the title of this post sounds like a book title.

    * My most given rating is 4 stars due to 2 facts: I try to pick up books very carefully and because when I started reading I felt like most books were good and fell into this rating.

    * I am giving more 2 and 3 stars now, I re-rated some books because after reading more and more, I realized that I didn’t like them as much as I thought I had before. And because I read more new releases now and don’t read books I am sure I will like!

    * I sometimes doubt my judges, yes! Carry on is a book that I can not even look at and everyone seems to like it that it drives me crazy. I am usually in the majority and I know what other readers will like and won’t , I predicted the falling of “An enchantment of ravens” and “War storm” ratings as soon as they were released!

    * I sometimes feel like I am too nice but I am trying to be as honest as possible now. And 1/2 stars ratings are everyone’s dreams but won’t happen anytime soon. Sorry for the huge comment!

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    1. Haha, thanks, Hamad! 💙

      *I’m always trying to read more diversely, so I do branch out when it comes to genres, but I also research the books I decide on reading, and pick books that interest me and that I think I’ll enjoy.

      *I don’t ever re-rate books, except for if I re-read them. I mean, that’s how I felt about that particular book when I read it back when, so … Also, my average rating would look horrible, if I did, haha.

      *Ohh nice, maybe you could predict my feelings towards certain books, before I read them, that’d help me out a lot. 😉

      *I know, I’ve seen Goodreads’ opinion on half-star ratings, big sighhh. And no, don’t apologize! I loved reading your opinion on this, and this is a discussion post, after all. 🙂

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      1. you’re welcome 😀

        * That sounds logical.
        * I re-rate them because the meaning of the star rating is different in my mind now and not because I enjoyed them less (although some of them I enjoyed less and I realize that after a while and I used to be scared of giving books a lower score rating but now I am not), for example, 4 stars was an average good book for me but now 4 is a very good book and 5 is a perfect book while the good/ average is 3 books.
        * I predict the general opinion toward a book but can not predict emotions 😦
        * GR updates suck and they don’t listen to our needs.

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  5. Ohh, this is so thought-provoking, Lily! I think at the end of the day it just comes down to personal taste- just because you don’t like a book others did doesn’t mean you’re necessarily more critical of a reader (though it might, it just depends on the person). There will be books you love that those same people dislike! 🙂

    Also, I loved the Hamilton reference, it made me smile, hehe. Great post!💓

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    1. Thanks, Olivia! That’s such a great compliment! 💗

      Honestly, my brain just naturally picks up on things to criticize, so … but there are definitely books I love that others don’t (and I love them, while still acknowledging that they’re not perfect), so I think being very critical doesn’t hinder me from enjoying books. 🙂

      I knew you’d catch the reference (as always). :’)

      Thank you so much for your kind words!! 😊💓

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  6. I definitely wish GR did half-star ratings. Sometimes I feel like a book is so close to perfect but there’s something that detracts from it, but I don’t want to give it a lower star rating just because. Rating books is weird though, in general. I can acknowledge a story’s technical positives but be frustrated by characters’ actions, or like the idea behind the story (so innovative! so imaginative! etc.) but dislike the way it was written, or think the story was so simple but the storytelling riveting — but I really wish it had been a more complicated plot. And so on. It’s hard to judge! Anyway, I feel ya.

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    1. Exactly! Some books are just the perfect 3.5 stars, and rounding up or rounding down wouldn’t feel right.

      And I agree with what you wrote 100%!! There are so many aspects that can influence my rating, and that’s why comparing books that I gave the same ratings will never feel exactly “right”. I’m so relieved I’m not the only one who struggles with this. 😌

      Thank you so much for your comment, Elissa! 💗

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  7. Usually, I’m in the minority! If I see a hyped book everyone loves, about 8/10 times I’ll end up disliking it. So, great post and you’re not alone! I question myself, too, since I’m always in the minority.

    – Caidyn

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  8. I can definitely relate. Sometimes I feel like I am not critical enough when I review books, and I try too hard to emphasise the good things about them.
    I agree with you that Goodreads should introduce 1/2 ratings, and don’t worry, you don’t need to convince any of use that you’re a book lover! 🙂

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    1. That is actually something that happens to me, too! Especially when I think about how much effort goes into writing a book, and getting it published, and it’s a tiny piece of the person who wrote it, so I want to only say good things about it, you know?

      And ahh that is so nice of you! It’s honestly more me convincing myself (for the most part), and having fun playing devil’s advocate.

      Thank you so much for your nice comment, Stephen!! It made me smile. 💙

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  9. I always, always, always doubt my opinions on books! XD It happens especially when I read other reviews and find myself agreeing with some of their points. Often times, I’m not critical enough or I tend to judge too quickly before actually reflecting on the book and give it a higher rating than it deserves. I don’t think low ratings means you hate books, it just means you know what you like and don’t like in books. Great post!

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    1. That’s such a relief to hear. 😌

      Agreeing with reviews that have a different rating always makes me question myself as well, haha. But I’ve learned that my initial rating after finishing a book (after taking enough time to reflect on it) is usually the one that is most true to my opinion, because reading really glowing reviews can make me “forget” points of criticism, and vice versa.

      Thank you so much, Rendz, that is so sweet of you! & I’m so happy you enjoyed this post. ❤

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  10. I doubt my ratings all the time lol. I’m way too nice haha. The half star rating would be amazing. Sometimes a book deserves a 2.5 but I round up to 3. Which isn’t exactly fair to my 3 star ratings lol. Or maybe just the option to write in our own rating? It’s a solid 2.75! Maybe that would complicate things though lol

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    1. That’s so comforting to hear! 😌

      And I completely agree with you; I’m so sad that Goodreads has pretty much stated that they won’t introduce half-star ratings, even though so many people have asked for them. My head would probably explode, if they introduced quarter-ratings, though, haha.

      Thanks for your comment, Suziey! 💗

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  11. I honestly think about the exact same things all the time. Even on books that I love I usually find myself going “well there was this one that was was less than stellar.”

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  12. I’ve never related to a post more! I would give just about anything for half star ratings on Goodreads because there’s nothing I hate more than having to round up a rating because of the .5 😔 it annoys me to no end.

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    1. That makes me so happy, Alana!! (Not that you’re facing the same struggles, of course, but that you relate!)

      Honestly, Goodreads should make a poll and let its users decide on whether it should introduce half-star ratings, because I haven’t seen one (1) single person who’s against them. 😪

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  13. I’m usually in the majority when it comes to book opinions? But I feel like just because you disliked a book everyone liked doesn’t necessarily mean you’re a SUPER critical reader, everyone just has different tastes and it might just have missed the mark.

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    1. I can only imagine how nice that must feel. 😭

      I’ve pretty much resigned myself to the fact that I’m a very critical reader, because this happens with 99.9% of the books I read – but I agree with you that if it were only this one book, it’s most likely just a matter of taste.

      Thanks for your input, Julianna! ❤

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    1. Thanks, Ally, that’s so nice to hear! ☺️ & I agree, but I do try not to get too critical.

      And that’s great!! I do know what I like, and I pick books I think I will enjoy based on their synopses and other readers’ reviews, but … well. 😬

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  14. I understand !!! I always feel I am critical. I don’t give out 5 stars easily even if I loved the book..it’s just the way I think about it. So you’re definitely not alone 😄😌

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  15. The title of your post scared me for a second lol. I definitely do wish we could rate by half stars on Goodreads. I would make things so much easier. And there are definitely times where I feel bad for rating something low, especially when it’s so well loved. There were many times where I even felt guilty and would round up my rating when I saw so many reviewers I trusted rate a book four and five stars but I guess I’ve just learned to accept that sometimes I just don’t like certain books and that it’s ok. I no longer mind being in the minority as I usually find myself when it comes to some popular books. Wonderful discussion by the way! I really enjoyed reading it!

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    1. Everyone who has ever weighed in on the subject of half stars has been supportive of it, but Goodreads still feels like the negative ramifications outweigh the positive. 😪

      I’m so happy that you’ve learned to embrace being critical, and in the minority with your bookish opinions! It’s something I still struggle with (obviously), but I’m glad to hear that you no longer feel the need to round up your ratings, just because a book is well-loved. (I hope I’ll get there one day & stop feeling bad about low ratings so much.)

      And thank you so, so much, Angelica, that means a lot to me! 💖

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      1. I definitely think it’s something that takes some time to get comfortable with. Even know I sometimes find myself debating whether or not to round up on certain well loved novels. And don’t worry, I it just comes with time so you’ll get there one day! And you’re welcome!

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  16. I am SO not critical enough. Most of my ratings are three to five stars. Partially this is because I have a good sense of what I’ll like ahead of time (and my habit of DNFing books I’m not enjoying), but partially this is because I’m just not a critical reader. At all. And sometimes I wish I was able to be more critical, but I’m also pretty happy liking most of what I read… (Also I just feel mean rating anything lower than a three, and therefore avoid it… more than I should… Oops.)

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    1. I’m so sad that so many of us worry about this. 😦 Glad, that I’m not the only one, but sad, nonetheless.

      I think it’s amazing to be able to enjoy most of what you read (without questioning every little detail, like I do)! So I really hope you don’t spend too much time worrying about being more critical. 🙂

      (And I feel the same way, but in the end, not wanting to feel like I’m insincere wins out. 🙈)

      Thanks for your comment, Iris! ☺️💕

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  17. This is a lovely post! ❤ I think I'm kind of on the opposite of you here, sometimes I feel like I am not critical enough, when I see everyone's rating, then mine. I don't know if it's because I'm lucky and I manage to pick up and read books I am mostly very excited about – or still kind of excited about – so I end up enjoying them about 99,9% of the time?! I also, most of the time, happen to read a book that still entertains me, whether it has some issues or not, and when it does, well it still deserves an okay rating, I think? I don't know, sometimes I feel like I should be more picky and read books with an even more critical eye, given that I'm supposed to be a book blogger and all. I feel strange that I don't have ranting reviews on my blog, but I'm not going to rant or pick up a book I'm going to hate, to be critical? I don't know if that makes ANY sense, haha and I am sooooooo rambling here, I'm sorry haha.
    That was a great post! ❤ ❤ ❤

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    1. Thanks, Marie! 💕

      It’s getting to the point where instead of feeling glad that I’m not alone in struggling with being (less)/critical it’s making me sad, because I firmly believe that we should all embrace the way we read – it’s so great that the books you’re excited about end up being enjoyable reads for you! And I 100% agree with you; if I enjoy a book, even if I find flaws, I always give it a decent rating. 🙂

      I don’t think I’ll ever post a rant review on my blog, because I want it to be a place that spreads positivity – critical reviews, yes, but rant reviews, no. And I’m with you; I’d never pick up a book I think I’d hate, just so I seem more critical. 👀

      (Please don’t force yourself to try and be more critical! Every opinion is valid, and especially as book bloggers, what’s most important is that we’re true to our feelings about them, right?)

      Thank you so much, Marie & I loved reading your comment (it makes perfect sense!!)! 💗

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      1. I admire that so much and I’m all for positivity as well ❤ Even if reading a good rant is distracting sometimes 😂 and I think it's no use to pick up a book you know you're going to hate, just to rant about it afterwards.

        Thank you so much, you're so right, I'm somehow afraid I am being "fake" sometimes, because I always post positive reviews, even if… well I'm just honestly enjoying 99% of my reads 😂

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        1. I agree, sometimes a rant is just necessary … and rants can be very entertaining to read, haha. But picking up a book for the sole purpose of writing a rant makes no sense to me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

          Aw, I honestly believe you don’t have to worry about that! ❤ And I feel the same way sometimes, though not in reviews, but in messages and comments. 😂

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  18. This is such an interesting post! My last 5 or so ratings on GoodReads have all been between 1-3 and I’ve felt bad for ranking them so low but I just didn’t enjoy them enough! I think one thing in life you should always have high-standards for is Literature and when it comes to reviewing, people would prefer you to be honest than just to go along with popular opinion!

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  19. I feel the same way! I used to fly through books while just enjoying them and not really looking too deep into them. When I started studying literature in more depth and I started this blog, I began looking for what I liked and disliked about every book I read and I became a more critical reader. It’s harder for me to award 5 stars to a book now! Another great post Lily, I always enjoy reading your thoughts! 🙂

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    1. I hardly ever give books five star ratings as well, but I love the feeling of finding one that I feel deserves it with all my heart. ☺️ I really enjoyed reading how you came to be more critical – thank you for leaving such a wonderful comment!

      And oh my goodness, thank you so, so much, Hannah! That makes me so happy to hear. :’) ❤

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  20. I’m glad to hear that other reviews have difficulty with this too — I think I tend to be critical in reviews as well and it does sometimes seem it would be easier to just write nice things about the books people love (I didn’t love certain aspects about The Night Circus, for example, which I think some readers were a bit miffed at).

    At the same time, when I’m reading reviews in order to look for book recs, I think the critical reviews are typically the more useful ones. I know no book is perfect, so mostly I just want to know what is it people didn’t like about it so I can decide if that’s something that is likely to bother me as well.

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    1. Ohh I hope people weren’t harsh towards you, because of that! I personally loved The Night Circus, even though I did have issues with it myself, because I adore the writing and beautiful imagery, but it’s definitely one of those books that appeal to a specific type of reader.

      Exactly! I do that, too. It depends on the book as well, though – sometimes I just want to go into a book without anticipating the points of criticism other readers have pointed out.

      Thank you for such a thoughtful comment, Jenn! ❤

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  21. FIRSTLY, YOUR OPINIONS ARE YOUR OPINIONS AND DONT WORRY ABOUT THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS!!

    I have this problem!! But like opposite?? I’m really generous with my reviews, just because I find it so EASY to get lost in a book. But then I worry that I’m not critical enough and like I have no opinions ever apart from “ahhhh I love it!!!”

    *sings* I will never be satisfied… with my opinions *sings*

    AND YES HALF STARS, PLEASE, GOODREADS.

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    1. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SAYING THIS, LU!! (Because I know it in my head, but still struggle with it, nonetheless). 💖

      Honestly, right back at you, because you should embrace the level of critical you are, and not worry about not being critical enough!! I wish I could love books more often, like you. 😭

      (If this is you quoting Hamilton back @ me – ILY. 💓)

      GOODREADS NEEDS TO ACKNOWLEDGE ITS USERS’ NEED FOR THEM.

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  22. Preaching to the choir, girl! I give a lot of three and four star ratings, but the actual reviews I write seem relatively critical. I feel like it’s because sometimes it’s easier to think in the negative, to think about what you don’t like versus what you do. I also feel like the things that annoy me in a book stick with me more than simple moments of joy that pass by, and that can affect my reviews. I don’t think it means you hate books! I think it just means that you have what you like and you have what you don’t and you know exactly what those are – and there’s nothing wrong with that! 🙂

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    1. I’m so sad that Goodreads has already stated that they won’t introduce half-star ratings, because they think having too many choices would make readers not rate books at all. :/

      I actually like to make notes while I’m reading, so I think I do remember both the good and the bad equally clearly … but it’s so interesting to me that the negative aspects stick with you more than the positive, I wonder why that could be. 🤔

      And thank you so much for your sweet comment, I really appreciate it! ❤

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  23. Great discussion! I relate to this so much. I’ve had numerous bookish friends tell me they didn’t want to actually be friends with me because of how critical I am. I think because of that I’ve decided to give out more four stars, which I don’t necessarily agree with. I don’t see a two or three star book as bad like they’re just not perfect? and it’s so frustrating.

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    1. Thank you, Amber! 💗

      First of all, I’m so sorry you had to experience that! It’s actually something that’s always in the back of my head when I give out yet another low rating; that people will get annoyed at how critical and “negative” I am all the time. And it makes me really sad to hear that you actually give out higher ratings, just because you don’t feel comfortable anymore to rate books according to how you actually feel – I hope you know that that’s okay, and your opinion is always valid!

      And I completely agree with you; two stars from me means that a book is okay, and three stars that I like it, so … it’s not really a “bad” rating?

      Thank you so much for your comment, I’m so glad you posted it! ❤

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  24. This was a great post! I am the opposite of you! I’ve only started writing book reviews, but they’ve all been either four or five stars (I think I’m too nice). I think it’s good to be critical with what you read though, because we have to be honest with ourselves about our opinions on what we read. This post was lovely 🙂

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    1. Thanks, Sarah! 🙂

      Well, it’s possible you’ve been lucky so far, and have picked books that you simply enjoy a lot? And I feel like, as you read and review more, you naturally become more critical as well, so I definitely wouldn’t worry about it. 🙂

      Thank you, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! 💕

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  25. I do feel like I’m not critical enough of the books I read. Most of the time, when I enjoy a book a lot, I tend to overlook its flaws. Haha. T_T
    I rarely give less than 3-star ratings but I’m wondering if it’s because I always tend to read books which I think I have a big chance in liking. 😅
    And yes! I really, really wish Goodreads would finally give us half-star ratings. I feel like sometimes, giving or taking out one star is too much.

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    1. Ohh, definitely! If I really love a book, I still “see” its flaws, but I’ll give it a high rating, nonetheless. I definitely don’t reserve high ratings for books that I think are “perfect”. And I’m glad that the books you think you’ll like work out in your favor most of the time!! 🙂

      I feel like everyone’d love them, Goodreads needs to acknowledge us!! 😩

      Thank you so much for your comment, Marie! I really enjoyed reading your thoughts on this topic. 💓

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  26. I think it’s always so much better to be a critical reader and I love reading reviews from people who are critical of a book. It always helps me to narrow down what books I want to read because sometimes people gloss over the issues that certain books may have or that people didn’t pick up on. I love knowing why people enjoyed a certain book but I’m always so interested in why they didn’t enjoy it as much as other people – it’s always so eye-opening!

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  27. great discussion!! and oh yeah, i noticed this abt u….. to the point where im almost afraid of reccing u books bc what if once AGAIN u won’t love them as much as i did?? i mean, that’s always a fear when reccing a book to someone, but ur critical self takes it to a whole new level!! don’t get me wrong, we all have different tastes and that’s totally valid and honestly, i’d rather u be too critical than not enough!! it’s just kind of a weird experience??? and i get why u would start doubting ur ratings urself, especially when so many of ur friends rate the books higher………. i guess that;s just the beauty of being human or something??

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    1. Thanks, Anna!! 🍑❤️

      Ahhh I’m so sorry sndjfdnfjs I feel so bad when I dislike books my friends really love! 😭 I did like Forest of a Thousand Lanterns, though? I just,,, didn’t really connect with Crush, and was so confused by the imagery for the most part.

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      1. lmao it’s cool, i get it i get it!!!!
        honestly crush is all abt that gay perspective, especially of a slightly older folks, i can see how it could be confusing 😮

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    1. Thank you so much, Malanie! 💖 That makes me so happy. ☺️

      Haha ahh, your comment made me laugh so hard. Don’t worry about it, you’re doing great!! & I love that you are so passionate about your OTPs and always get so excited about books I love as well!!

      I hope you have a great day, and only read the best books!! 💓

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    1. That’s comforting to hear! And I relate, I often see glowing reviews after disliking a book, and go “… did I read the same book?” I hope you don’t worry about it as much as I do, though! 🙈

      Thank you for your comment, Michelle! ☺️💕

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  28. I used that 1/2 star add on quite a bit in my ratings, but alas, Goodreads doesn’t have it, so yeah, I’d love to see that introduced! 😀

    I feel like I’m an easy-to-please reader since I rarely rate anything lower than a three-star, but mostly it’s four or higher (or at least that 1/2 star in between these two). That said, like I say, I think if I’m being entertained (even if I don’t think the story is “the best ever”), that to me is a HUGE part of what makes a book good because life’s too short NOT to enjoy what we’re reading. 🙂 Fun post, Lily!

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    1. Same, I’ve used half-ratings for almost all the books I’ve read. Why is Goodreads still fighting us on this?? 😭

      Ohh wow, I hardly ever rate books four or higher. But I totally agree with you – if I’m entertained by, and really enjoyed myself while reading a book, I’ll definitely give it at least four stars, despite “flaws” I might find in them.

      Thanks so much, Rissi! I hope your day is kind to you!! 🌻

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  29. Yesss!!! I myself find it so weird that people can give books such high ratings (no shame on them though of course) when I’m literally nit-picking at them. It makes me feel like I hate most of the books I pick up (to some extent, it’s true), so I love that you up this subject. Excellent discussion! ❤

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    1. Yay to being fellow nit-picky readers!! 🙏🏻😼

      I love that you completely understood where I was coming from with my hyperbole of “hating books”, and I’m so glad to have found someone who relates to this.

      Thanks so much, I appreciate your comment a lot!! ❤

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  30. I sometimes get a similar feeling – not so much that it means I *hate* books, but maybe that I’m not finding the right ones. I tend to rate books 3 stars, which just means “it was ok” to me, and haven’t rated ANY 5 stars so far this year. So I can’t help but wonder if maybe I’m being too harsh, or if I’m just not reading the right books.

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    1. Haha, I have a faible for hyperboles, and it was just really me having fun while writing this, and playing devil’s advocate. 🙂

      I’ve given three books five stars so far this year – and I do think I know my tastes pretty well, so for me it’s mostly just my critical way of thinking.

      Thanks for your input, Ashleigh! I hope you find a niche of books you really love, if that’s the reason you haven’t rated books highly so far. ❤

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  31. I was shocked to see the title of this post and was like… wait what you HATE books??? Hahaha but now I get it 😛 there was a time when I felt like I was too critical–I was always the black sheep, the party pooper, whatever you name it. But it was during the time when I read and review very frequently. I was reading so many books and Idk… it was a liiiitle exhausting and I ended up holding them to a higher standard. Now that I only read sporadically, I find myself enjoying books more and not being too critical about it. I don’t know if that makes any sense though, great post ❤

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    1. Hahaha, I’m glad I could remedy that assumption. 😛

      Ohh wow, that’s so interesting, and it actually makes perfect sense! I feel like even during times I read less books (I read a lot of books this year), I’ve still been very critical, though. I’m going to pay closer attention to this, still.

      Thank you so much, Puput! I really appreciate your insightful comment. ☺️💞

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  32. Hahaha your Hamilton reference is perfect. 😉 I probably spend way too much time debating about how I’m going to rate books, and everything is complicated by the fact that after I decide on a rating I have to figure out whether I’m going to round up or down on Goodreads if it was a half star. I don’t understand why Goodreads hasn’t fixed this? Like literally everyone wants half stars.

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    1. Thanks, Annie! 💗

      Hamilton is just the BEST. And I read a recent statement from Goodreads, and they basically said that it would make users more likely to not rate a book at all, because they can’t decided on a rating, since there are so many choices with half-stars. :/

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  33. I think I’m usually in the majority with how I feel about books, but I always have my own opinions on some aspect of the story. If I am in the minority in how I feel about a book (like if I hated something everyone else loved) there will be some doubt creeping in, but ultimately I’ll just accept that there were things I didn’t love and that I have my reasons for it. I think I usually fall on the side of not critical enough because if there’s a story I love I’ll sometimes just ignore something I don’t like or that’s a little problematic if it doesn’t really affect the bigger picture xD

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  34. This is such a great post! I’m usually in the majority (I think), but sometimes there are books where I am just way off from the popular opinion. And usually it makes me question myself, as if I have missed something that made everyone love it. I would love to reread every book where this happens so I can see exactly where I went wrong, but there is so little time for that. I think I probably just need to remind myself that it’s OKAY to not like popular books, and I’ll be just fine.

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  35. Girl I feel you so hard. My average rating is 2.67!! I do think I’m an extremely critical reviewer but I rarely question myself on whether on not I think a book deserved the rating I gave it. As much as I am passionate about reading in general I am passionate about sticking up for my opinion on books I dislike. Obviously I think it’s great that people enjoyed books that I didn’t but I’m not going to gloss over the critiques or issues I had for a certain novel just because everyone else liked it. To be honest–and this might make me a bad person–but I love writing negative book reviews because I’m able to analyze what didn’t work for me or what I thought was objectively not great. I think it makes me appreciate really good books even more, and I always make sure to include the negative aspects of even my all time favourite books. Nothing is perfect.

    That being said, I adore reading book reviews where people gush about all the books they’ve read and loved. It’s so amazing seeing how excited and happy reading can make people! Although, I probably won’t pick up everything they recommend because I just read in a different way that they do. Thanks so much for such an awesome discussion, sorry I’m here so late lol. I loved reading through what everyone else had to say about the topic too.

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    1. Ahhh I’m so happy to have found someone who relates to being an extremely critical reader!! I admire you so much for not glossing over your opinion when it comes to popular books, because I sometimes do hold back on points of criticism, when it comes to books that are well-loved by friends of mine, because I feel so bad for disliking them and “talking badly” about them. And I 100% agree with you on how no book is perfect, and I definitely appreciate books that do get high ratings from me so much more.

      And same! I love reading them, they always make me so happy and excited, especially when they’re for books I love as well.

      I’m so glad you enjoyed this discussion and joined it! I loved reading your opinion on this, and I’m so thrilled to have found someone who’s as critical as I am, if not more. (Are you on Goodreads, by the way? I remember looking for a link to it on your blog once, but not finding one.)

      Thanks so much for your comment, Libby!! ❤️

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      1. I do have Goodreads! My name is “okaylib” on there if that helps at all. As soon as I get back onto my laptop I’ll make sure to add a link!

        That really means a lot to me, thank you so much! I admire you so much as well. Although I don’t think people who enjoy everything aren’t being truthful but it’s really great knowing that your reviews are ones I can trust because we view books in a similar light. ❤️❤️

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